Restoration: building blocks
Building a new marriage means you create the sacred in the marriage. You must learn to cherish your spouse and be transparent with each other.
In Biblical times, people built a hedge of thorns around their gardens and even their houses as a method of protection. Likewise, we need to build a hedge of protection around our marriages. Job 1:10 says, “Have you not put a hedge around him and his household and everything he has? You have blessed the work of his hands, so that his flocks and herds are spread throughout the land.”
We must agree to not take any chances with our marriage when trying to protect and restore what was broken. Part of the hedge is found in education through proper support and counsel and the other I believe is cementing your faith in the one who can restore even the ugliest of sins.
Nothing lasting happens over night and with time, God will reward you for the decision to choose restoration. He will grant you the patience needed as you make mistakes and work together to change. God will not be quick to judge and wants us to follow His example when we confess to one another and seek transparency in our relationships. You might not see progress when comparing to the day before but over time, you will see with God’s help, a beautifully restored and renewed marriage.
How has God given you patience to mend and restore what was broken?
Do you feel you have the tools necessary to remodel your relationship? If not, have you found the courage to speak up and ask for help?
What are some ways that you have restored your marriage and God has healed your heart?
Psalm 23:3, Psalm 51:12, Ecc. 4:12, Jeremiah 30:17, Joel 2:25-26, Revelations 21:1-5, Isaiah 55:1
It happen when Jesus took our sins upon the wooden cross. Forever redeemed. Forever saved from this ugly fallen world we live in. Three nails and our lives are completely changed.
God has a funny way of using our deepest flesh wounds to show His glory to others but more importantly, to show us where our character lacked strength. How has God reconstructed your character and given you redemption through the pain?
What is the meaning of redemption? What does the Bible say about it?
Psalm 111:9, Galatians 2:20, Colossians 1:14, Psalm 19:14
“How much more, then, will the blood of Christ, who through the eternal Spirit offered himself unblemished to God, cleanse our consciences from acts that lead to death, so that we may serve the living God!” Hebrews 9:14
“Who gave himself for us to redeem us from all wickedness and to purify for himself a people that are his very own, eager to do what is good.” Titus 2:14
“In him we have redemption through his blood, the forgiveness of sins, in accordance with the riches of God’s grace that he lavished on us with all wisdom and understanding.” Ephesians 1:7-8
"Redeemed women of God have tender merciful hearts, backbones of steel, and hands that are prepared for the fight." - Stasi Eldredge
Joy: choosing to see
When life is in line with God’s Word, we should be experiencing joy everyday; in many ways. God challenges us to find joy in our trials because He knows that it will build character and make us stronger.
Over the years, I have seen the devil rip marriages apart and cause dissension in the church from the temptations of the world and consequences that follow. I’ve witnessed people choosing bitterness verses forgiveness and realize that the grass is not greener on the other side. I’ve seen a well of emotions reappear after 35 years of betrayal and the pain that was caused from the lack of grace given. Generations suffering from selfish decisions and joy buried because facing truth is just too hard. The devil is having a party as he brings chaos to our marriages and casts a sky of despair to those too weak to fight the battle.
In the old testament we see that joy was associated with true worship of God. During King Hezekiah’s reign, the Israelites rededicated themselves to God and we read that the people renewed their commitment to God which ultimately reignited the joy in their hearts. Paul experienced joy by simply doing God’s will in his ministry and encourages us to find joy in Christ’s sufferings. James tells us to “count it all joy” when we are facing trials or in the midst of suffering. The only thing that can steal our joy is sin. By encompassing your life with His Word and His truth you protect yourself against the flaming arrows that want to rip that smile, the baby step towards healing, and the joy that is promised to us. Allow the joy to shine through to the outside and let others see the beauty in the ashes as God restores your heart and heals your wounds.
In Isaiah 55:12, we are told to “go out with joy and be led forth in peace.” Have you been able to follow through with that command as you face personal struggles and hardships?
What things bring you joy from sunrise to sunset? kids, coffee, sunshine, flowers, running, crafts, family, music, smiles, brownies, and knowing God loves me
“When times are good, be happy; but when times are bad, consider:
God has made the one as well as the other.” Ecclesiastes 7:14
“Rejoice in the lord always, I will say it again: Rejoice! Let your gentleness be evident to all. The Lord is near. Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.” Philippians 4:4-7
Romans 12:12, James 1:2, Galatians 5:22, Psalm 16:9, Psalm 71:23, Psalm 126:5
“Fear & doubt are conquered by a faith that rejoices. And faith can rejoice because the promises of God are as certain as God Himself.” -Kay Arthur
About the Author
Stephanie is a stay-at-home mommy to four little blessings. Married for 16 years, Tim and Stephanie find new ways to enjoy intimate time together while raising the young family.