"It is compromise on the little issues that leads to greater downfalls. Are we willing to call sin "sin" not because it is big or little, but because God's law forbids it? We cannot categorize sin if we are to live a life of holiness. Will you begin to take personal responsibility for your sin?"
- Jerry Bridges, The Pursuit of Holiness
"Catch for us the foxes, the little foxes that ruin the vineyards, our vineyards that are in bloom."
Song of Songs 2:15
One of the key pieces in moving towards a restored relationship is the transparency in our own hearts and towards each other. With a humbled heart and speaking with grace, approach your spouse with love and forgiveness as you discuss the topic of sin. Don't let the "little foxes" destroy the positive momentum you may be experiencing in your journey towards healing. I'm not suggesting to ignore the little things, but instead, to see your own heart in light of sin taking responsibility for your own actions first.
Glueing the pieces of a shattered marriage is a fragile, gentle and exhausting process. It is only with God's grace that we can begin to approach the task of putting ourselves back together.
"For sin shall not be your master, because you are not under law, but under grace."
About the Author
Stephanie is a stay-at-home mommy to four little blessings. Married for 16 years, Tim and Stephanie find new ways to enjoy intimate time together while raising the young family.