There is no easy way to ask your husband to move out. Period. Nothing prepares you for that action.
I wasn't strong enough to do it myself as our pastor took charge and did it for me. There's no right time that makes the change easier for the heart and home. The vacancy leaves a gap, a silence and adds pressure to the spouse left at home with chores, routines, crunching finances and finding answers to hard questions from the possible children in the home.
God designed for two to become one. Not one to become two.
Whether it's ten days, three weeks or months before the conversation of moving back home begins, life will feel like sailing through uncharted
waters. But never in those moments will God abandon you or leave you...either of you.
Today I sat with a friend who is navigating this new change in her home. I prayed for this beautiful bride and reminded her that she is being carried by the Almighty...even in her lowest pit. I asked God to lift her just an inch higher from the darkest place as if to say, "My precious daughter, rest in My arms. I will carry you up this hill."
I ask that you pray with me for this gal. For all the wives (and husbands too) who are in this separated state in their marriage. Who may have young or old children in the home, bills to pay, laundry to be washed and floors to be mopped all the while attempting to mend a broken marriage. Help me pray that satan would no longer have a foothold in the addictions, the sin of lustful eyes and devastating choices that shortly follow in shady situations. Pray that those husbands who are caught in the bondage of this lustful sin would fall repentant and seek Jesus to heal them from the inside out. Pray for protection over the kids at home who are subjected to the arguments, the pain, the tears and change within their infrastructure they call family. There's no overnight, fast food fix for this type of damage between man and woman bound together through vows.
My prayer is that these individuals walking the journey of separation would lean on their Heavenly Father and find strength in their firm faith to defeat the battles at hand.
Please pray this with me as many, way too many, are silently hurting because betrayal has taken over their marriage.
"Is anyone of you in trouble? He should pray. Is anyone happy? Let him sing songs of praise. Is any one of you sick? He should call the elders of the church to pray over him and anoint him with oil in the name of the Lord. And the prayer offered in faith will make the sick person well; the Lord will raise him up. If he has sinned, he will be forgiven. Therefore confess your sins to each other and pray for each other so that you may be healed. The prayer of a righteous man is powerful and effective."
About the Author
Stephanie is a stay-at-home mommy to four little blessings. Married for 16 years, Tim and Stephanie find new ways to enjoy intimate time together while raising the young family.