Fifteen years ago, Tim and I drove down to Portland to pick up furniture and move him back home. At this point we had established a great friendship and had reached that awkward moment of falling for your bestfriend but not sure how to say it! You know what I'm talking about too! It was the night before we left for home that I shared my feelings for Tim and got NOTHING back in response…yes, very awkward moment. And that moment continued all 5 hours back home! That was terribly hard for me to do!
When we finally reached my apartment in Shoreline, I had one request as Tim needed to go upstairs and ask my 3 roommates a question. "When you go upstairs, can you please grab a tampon?" Haha. We had obviously reached a level of comfort in our friendship. It was with the roommates approval, my verbal vomit of stating my feelings the night before and Tim's desires that he drove me to Everett beach, near the train tracks, and asked me to be his girlfriend. Shortly after I said yes to his request, we had a train-wreck of a first kiss that we today, still laugh about!
Fast-track ahead. This afternoon, I texted My Love to remind him of that moment. I then headed to get a massage in attempts to work the knots, aches and pains out of my back. It was half way through the massage that Jessica and I heard a phone ring, some guy talking, then a KNOCK on the door where a very important massage was talking place!!! When Jessica opened the door, we both saw Tim standing there with a coffee in hand ready to bless me with a latte. It might not have been the perfect timing, but the effort to track me down and make sure it really was me behind the closed door was PERFECT! Tim's favorite part of the gift was catching a glimpse of my bare back…bahaha!!! We got the spark.
Marriage has it's pleasant surprises and we've experienced many of them. The best part of saying, "YES" 15 years ago, is that we've been able to perfect that kiss everyday after!!!
Today, for no reason other than comfort and the fact that I'm not leaving the house at all, shall be a sweatpants type of day. Enjoy the rainy weather! I've got myself housework and laundry along with a great book and tea on my To-Do list :)
I'm quickly reminded after an evening with other betrayed women, that the devil is never at rest. Satan is always at work to kill, destroy and separate us from Christ's purpose and greater plan.
Years of meeting with women has finally taught me to not take their pain home as I grieve with them and feel the pain from the lies, deceit and confusion of satan's craftiness. But, seeing a young wife with tears hanging from her eyelids and again receiving news that yet another marriage has fallen prey to the evil one, can only leave me to feel their pain.
There is no perfect solution.
There is and will be no stopping this from happening to another union.
As long as the devil is walking, deceiving and prowling after our husbands, young men and yes, even women's minds and hearts, we will be experiencing this excruciating pain of betrayal.
So, let us NEVER put our guards down and without hesitation, get on our knees and PRAY! Pray for our families, marriages and spouses to guard themselves against the filth surrounding us. Pray for healing and patience as those in pain deal, confront and face the up's and down's head on as they challenge what the world too often says for us to do: run, walk away. Pray that Christ's love really would be enough for those in pain and feeling lost. Pray that we will not get distracted with the bitterness and negative attitudes that arise and pray for those never to take root in our hearts.
We must always be ready for an attack of the devil and the slimy ways he plays the evil games.
Armor up. He's ready to play.
It's not too late to sign up for R-613 small group starting Monday evening, September 22nd!!!
No betrayal is too big for God not to heal. His desire is for us to live a bitter-free life. In this group, there is no judgement, no story no important. God wants to give you the redemption from the past pain and freedom moving forward!
Redeemed 613 is a 6-week small group meeting Monday evenings at 6:30pm. Contact me for more information and location.
This past weekend My Love had work to look at in Nebraska, at the Lied Lodge located in the Arbor Day Foundation. It sits on exaggerated rolling hills with varying different trees and pleasant sounds of crickets. There was nothing to do but relax, read and enjoy deliciously good food. The hospitality was out of this world and the folks were incredibly friendly.
Tim and I were able to share romantic walks and warm hot chocolates during our nighttime walks along with zippy cups of coffee in the morning. I love nothing more than to travel with this man and create more happy memories together.
God has been so good to us!
Where have you dated recently? Have you had some memorable dinner dates or are you the dessert type of couple?
Struggling to find childcare, My Love had mentioned staying home to watch two of the three kids. After the first child decided to stay home then the second, Tim chose to be my date!
We are blessed to be able to call our good friend and have her ready to watch all three kids in a moments notice. The bigger blessing is how she still could say she enjoyed herself after the toddler finger painted with poo all over her room. Besides the poo-decorating, the kids had a great night and so did we! Congrats to the bride and groom!
Here's another opportunity to get connected, strengthen your marriage and meet other couples!!!
Strengthening Marriage Night Date
Sunday, September 7, 2014
Time: 6:30 PM - 8:00 PM
Location: Family Room at NCCTK in Lynden, WA
Join Kurt and Gwen for part 2 of "Hot Summer Nights", as they continue the open and honest conversation about the joy of sexual intimacy and God\'s design for oneness in marriage. Contact firstname.lastname@example.org for more information.
"Carry each other's burdens, and in this way you will fulfill the law of Christ." Galations 6:2
You are not alone.
Whether you were just informed of the betrayal, in the middle of the mess or on the other end of the tunnel…God has NEVER left you alone. Know you have a sister in Christ praying for you and encouraging you to be strong in the Lord and to lean on your family in Christ.
Consider joining R-613 Small Group starting September 22nd for a 6 week study on betrayal. Gain insight from the Bible on how to navigate the garment of emotions as you work towards healing. Encourage others and be encouraged. You can sign up by simply contacting me and letting me know you're interested.
"To bestow on them a crown of beauty instead of ashes, the oil of gladness instead of mourning, and a garment of praise instead of a spirit of despair. They will be called oaks of righteousness.
Instead of their shame my people will receive a double portion, and instead of disgrace they will rejoice in their inheritance; and so they will inherit a double portion in their land, and everlasting joy will be theirs."
About the Author
Stephanie is a stay-at-home mommy to four little blessings. Married for 16 years, Tim and Stephanie find new ways to enjoy intimate time together while raising the young family.